Whenever we go around looking for that Significant Other in our lives, we already have a kind of image of how he/she is supposed to look like. From the approximate physical traits (I don’t care if he/she has green or blue eyes as long as they’re light) down to what would be the things we would enjoy with and/or from them.

Then we meet people and we try to fit them into that image, and even when they don’t fit exactly, we still see that image and try to mold the real person to it.

And it doesn't work, then, 100%, the relationship will fail.

When going out looking for that Significant Other in our lives, don’t be adamant about how he/she is supposed to look, and, most important, don’t think about what you are going to get. Think: “What am I able and ready to give?”

Take a piece of paper and draw a vertical line in the middle of it.

On the left, write down all your downfalls. Be honest to yourself: if you aren’t able to be honest in yourself, how will you be able to be honest to another?

On the right, write down what you would like to receive. Don’t go asking for the moon. Keep your wishes and wants down to Earth.

Then get comfortable, relaxed, you can make your environment as pleasant and relaxing as you want – light some incense, put on some relaxing music – and start studying that list. But – here’s the catch – study it like you were on the other side of it. Like you would receive what is written on the left side of the vertical line, and give what is on the right side of the vertical line. Go deep into that, imagine yourself in a relationship like that.

If you feel you would be happy – not only you are, indeed, ready for a long-term relationship, and your chances that it will happen, and happen soon, are excellent.
If not – well, if you can’t accept yourself, why do you think someone else would? Maybe it’s time to work on yourself a little bit. If nothing else, it will make your life way happier – until the time when you get to the point when you are, indeed, ready for the love of your life.